Sep 17, 2020
Lockdown helped me to heal after devastating loss of my baby, says Countryfile’s Anita Rani
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ANITA RANI’S world has been turned upside down after welcoming an adorable new member to the family – eight-week-old Bedlington whippet puppy Rafi.
“My husband wanted something that was going to bound to the door and love him unconditionally — and that wasn’t going to be me,” says the Countryfile host.11Anita Rani promised herself in January that 2020 was going to be her year to be kinder to herself
“We are madly in love with her, though we’re still figuring out sleep routines. The first night was a disaster, we ended up sleeping in the kitchen with her.”
In January, Anita promised herself that 2020 was going to be her year to be kinder to herself.
She wrote movingly and with searing honesty about the difficult time she and husband Bhupi, a tech executive, had since she suffered a miscarriage at the end of 2018.
“I’ve essentially lived like a rock,” she wrote in the article. “It took me a long time (an entire year) to recognise and accept my sadness.”11Anita has spoken honestly about the difficult time she and husband Bhupi had since she suffered a miscarriage
While Anita, 42, is normally very private, she felt motivated to share her story as miscarriage still feels like a taboo subject for women, with so many suffering in silence.
Now, nine months on, she reflects on how it felt to open up like that.
She says: “It’s difficult to talk about, because it’s bereavement.
“It’s a loss, and that will never change. But it’s too exhausting not living truthfully and I also thought it was too important not to use my voice.11The Countryfile star felt motivated to share her story as miscarriage still feels like a taboo subject for women
“Nobody talks about it, yet so many women have gone through it.
"Lots of women and men have reached out to me since and spoken about what they went through.
“The response was amazing and I think that is the biggest thing about sharing your experiences.
"I just used my voice and it helped me as well as others and it was worth it.”11Anita has welcomed an adorable new member to the family – Bedlington whippet puppy Rafi
Earlier this month Nicola Sturgeon also tweeted about her 2011 miscarriage, writing that “the pain never leaves you” and adding: “We don’t talk about all this enough.”
Lorraine Kelly shared the Scottish First Minister’s post, saying: “It affects far too many of us.”
Anita says there is immense pressure on women to carry on and hold everything together, even through a trauma, and this prevents them from speaking up.
She says: “I think it goes back to times in villages living rural lives, where women had to look after the children and provide food and work in the fields and do everything. Where is the time for a woman to grieve?11Anita says there is immense pressure on women to carry on and hold everything together, even through a trauma
“If men went through it, would it be different? Yes, probably.
“As women we just suck a lot of things up. We are amazing and we can do all those things.
"We have incredible resilience, and having travelled the world making documentaries about people, it’s the women who blow me away every single time.
“They are doing everything and being bad-asses. But that doesn’t mean we can’t share pain as well.11Anita believes the Black Lives Matter movement will prove pivotal
“We need to find the space to be able to do that.
“Lockdown has given me space to be more thoughtful. I will look back at this year as hopefully a moment of rebirth.”
In particular, Anita believes the Black Lives Matter movement will prove pivotal.
“It has been horrendous in so many ways, but people have really thought about what is important, and after watching the horror of George Floyd in America, there is almost an urgency now.'I HAVEN'T HAD IT EASY'
“It’s affected me hugely. As an Asian woman, I have my own world which I live in.
“I’m impacted by the fact that I am a woman, brown and northern, and all these things have made my life what it is — and mean I haven’t had it easy.
“I certainly haven’t had it as bad as others but I think people need to understand privilege and accept that there is a right side to this and a wrong side.
“I choose to be on the right side.”
I’m opening cracks and wounds but hopefully I’ll be stronger for itAnita Rani
Anita has said in the past that the colour of her skin meant she had to work harder to succeed.
She says: “When I said that in an interview it became this big headline and I was really fearful, thinking people would think I was moaning or had this big chip on my shoulder.
"I was nervous about talking about my race.
“But it’s the truth — I have 100 per cent had to work harder. I’ve always known that in my heart, but I’m somebody that just gets on with things.11Anita has said in the past that the colour of her skin meant she had to work harder to succeedCredit: Getty Images - Getty
“I’ve always said, ‘Just focus on the job you’ve got’.
"But now? Now I’m questioning the jobs I didn’t get and thinking, ‘Hang on a minute, why didn’t I get this job? Why wasn’t I considered for that?’
“And that’s what’s changed in me. It’s a process and I’m going through it now.
"When you start opening up about things like race and your life, it unnerves you a little bit.11Countryfile carried on filming through lockdown, but much of Anita’s work was put on holdCredit: BBC
“I’m opening cracks and wounds but hopefully I’ll be stronger for it.
"Life is too short not to be vocal. You’ve got to make a choice about the life you want to live.
“I feel if I don’t use my platform as one of the few Asian women in the public eye, I am doing a disservice to every other Asian woman in the country.”
The pandemic has also meant Anita’s work projects have not all gone as scheduled.11Anita says it was 'nice to nest' with husband Bhupi during lockdownCredit: Instagram
Countryfile carried on filming through lockdown, but much of Anita’s work was put on hold, including The Ganges With Anita Rani, a “dream gig” of a travelogue series for Channel 5.
She says: “It was going to be a busy year but it’s funny how quickly we adapt. I found that I enjoyed being in one space and it was nice to nest with Bhupi.
“He worked downstairs, I worked upstairs and we had breakfast, lunch and dinner together.
"We ordered a lot of wine and drank it very quickly, although that novelty wore off, because we couldn’t come out of lockdown as alcoholics!'TRIAL AND ERROR'
“It was the first time in our ten-year marriage that I’ve been home for that long.
“In fact, I think he was secretly happy when I went off to film Countryfile for a night or two!”
Now the couple have grey short-haired Rafi, who even has her own Instagram account, to entertain them.
Anita says: “Neither of us have ever had a dog, so it’s trial and error, but she’s worth it.”
I think it is really good on a mental health level to get rid of clutterAnita Rani
Anita has also been heavily involved in TK Maxx’s Give Up Clothes For Good campaign in aid of Cancer Research UK For Children & Young People.
The initiative invites people to bag up pre-loved clothes, accessories and homeware and drop it at TK Maxx stores, to be passed to Cancer Research UK.
Each bag can be worth up to £25 for the charity, with £37million having been raised since the annual campaign began in 2004.
The wider effects of Covid mean much cancer treatment and research has been stalled and Anita says the campaign feels especially timely now as a result, adding: “I’ve got two close family members going through cancer, so it is very real in my life.11Grey short-haired Rafi even has her own Instagram accountCredit: Instagram
"Something as simple as handing old clothes to TK Maxx is a brilliant way to do something good.
“During lockdown, every time I opened my wardrobe I noticed how much stuff I had and I questioned how much stuff I really needed.
"I think it is really good on a mental health level to get rid of clutter.
“And buying vintage and second-hand is a much better way.11Anita is proud to be in her 'fierce 40s', self-confident and no longer racked with 'freelance fear'
"So many of us buy clothes that we get bored of, so why not let someone else wear them?”
Anita is proud to be in her “fierce 40s”, self-confident and no longer racked with “freelance fear”, which stopped her taking a holiday for several years.
She says: “No, I’ve earned my right to be where I am. Fear the 40-something woman who is wearing f***ing amazing vintage, with beautiful red lipstick and powerwalking her way through life!
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“We are surrounded by really powerful women in their 40s . . . Claudia Winkleman, Zoe Ball and Emma Willis . . . who are at the top of their game.
“Mary Berry, what a queen. Floella Benjamin, what an icon.”
She adds: “We still have more to do in terms of getting more amazing women of colour to look up to. But I’m proud to be leading the charge.”
- Anita is supporting TK Maxx’s Give Up Clothes For Good in support of Cancer Research UK For Children & Young People. Visit tkmaxx.com for more information.
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Driskel benched, Broncos fall to 0-3 after loss to Bucs
DENVER (AP) — Jeff Driskel benched. Early punt blocked. Defense Tom Brady-ied.
That pretty much wraps up how the day went for the struggling Denver Broncos, who fell 28-10 to Brady and the Tampa Bay Buccaneers on Sunday.
For the second straight season, the Broncos start 0-3.
For the second straight September, coach Vic Fangio went winless, which is something no other coach in the Broncos’ history has done. His team was 0-4 in the month last season.
“We’ve just all got to look in the mirror and just figure it out because we’re way too talented to be 0-3,” said Broncos receiver Tim Patrick, who had a 7-yard TD catch just before halftime to make it 23-10. “We’re way too talented to be losing these games.”
It wasn’t pretty in any facet for the Broncos as Brady picked up his first road win for the Bucs (2-1). It’s been a rough stretch for the Broncos, who are missing quarterback Drew Lock, standout pass rusher Von Miller, top receiving threat Courtland Sutton and running back Phillip Lindsay.
Stepping in for Lock, Driskel was under constant duress. He was sacked five times, including twice by former Bronco and reigning NFL sack leader Shaq Barrett. Driskel finished 17 of 30 for 176 yards, one TD and an interception. He was also tackled in the end zone by Barrett for a safety.
In the fourth quarter, Driskel got pulled in favor of Brett Rypien, who was activated off the practice squad Friday.
Rypien completed eight straight passes to start his NFL career. His ninth was complete as well — only to safety Mike Edwards in the end zone to thwart a drive.
“Wish we could have gotten that one back and got the touchdown,” said Rypien, who’s the nephew of longtime NFL quarterback Mark Rypien. “I think I’ve made some big strides as far as understanding defenses better and knowing when to get the ball out.”
The Broncos have a full-fledged QB controversy — on a short week, too. They play on the road against the Jets on Thursday.
The options: Stick with Driskel, turn to Rypien or trot out recently signed Blake Bortles, who may not be fully up-to-date on the system but does have 103 touchdown pass — along with 75 interceptions — on his resume.
Fangio didn’t tip his hand after the game.
“We’ll talk about it as a staff and move forward,” he said.
It was out of Driskel’s hands, so he wasn’t going to dwell on it, either.
“I hope to be out there,” Driskel said. “I expect to be out there.”
This wasn’t the start the Broncos envisioned: A blocked punt after their opening drive stalled. Tampa Bay’s Patrick O’Connor burst through the middle, stuck out his hand while being held and deflected Sam Martin’s kick.
Brady was in business at the Denver 10 yard line. Three plays later, he found Chris Godwin for the score.
“It’s never good, obviously,” Fangio said of the special teams breakdown. “We had a chance to hold it to only a field goal. We needed to do that on defense and didn’t get that done.”
In all, Brady threw three TD passes and was an efficient 25 of 38 for 297 yards. The Bucs were 8 of 16 on third down.
“At the end of the day, my job is to get to the quarterback and I just have to do that better,” pass rusher Bradley Chubb said. “It’s frustrating, but we just have to forget about it and bounce back.”
The message was that simple.
“We are not where we can be,” guard Graham Glasgow said. “Frankly, that is a case for optimism, but at the same time the reality of the situation is that we are underperforming and we’re underachieving and that’s something that we need to work through as a group and as an offense.”
Chubb’s sentiment as well.
“Three games doesn’t define your season,” Chubb said. “We just have to keep sticking together, fighting for each other, and go out there and make the plays we’re supposed to make.”
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